Be a Man!




This is a very complex and deep book to get into, nonetheless it has been one of the greatest and most influential recent reads on my character. The majority of it is too personal and intense for me to get into a full summary, however, I will summarize the largest and, in my opinion, most important section of the book: Part 1, A Man’s Way. Below are a list of the chapters in part 1 and the core lesson I received from each one. Enjoy:


(Disclaimer: While the book is called The Way of the Superior Man, Deida makes it very clear that the book is not necessarily for men only. He states that the book is a guide for those with a masculine energy and a way to under the masculine from the perspective of those with a feminine energy. Deida delves deeper into the differences between masculine and feminine energy in the book, but a key component of each: someone with a masculine energy may be very into relationships and love, but they know, deep down, that the most important thing to them is their purpose in life. Someone with a feminine energy may be very involved and dedicated to a mission or career in life, but at their core, they will never be satisfied unless there is love flowing in their relationships. Men tend to be more masculine, women tend to be more feminine, and some people are balanced, but this is not always the case)

And so it begins:

Stop hoping for a completion of anything in life – If you are not doing it now, you will never do it. Dedicate at least an hour daily to doing whatever you dream about doing. You may find you cannot or do not want to actually do it, it is just that: a dream. Men who lived significant lives never waited for anyone or anything.


Live with an open heart – When bad things happen to us, we tend to close ourselves off literally and figuratively. Practice opening yourself up in bad times. Open your body to the unkind world and open your mind and heart to the pain it is going through.


Live as if your father were dead – Live free of your father’s (or applicable role model) expectations and criticism.


Know your real edge and don’t fake it – Know what your limits are, admit them to yourself, and live right on their border. Don’t try to live too far into your fear or too far away from it, but rather at the edge of your comfort zone and stay right there. It will expand. Fear shall become your friend.


Always hold to your deepest realization – Make your life a process of living in the moment and being who you truly are in your freest moments.


Never change your mind just to please a woman – Trust your own wisdom. Listen to advice, take it into account, and make the decision that is best for you.


Purpose before relationship – A man’s purpose in life is his mission. If you neglect that for a relationship, you will suffer and the relationship will suffer.


Do it for love – When you really make love with a woman, you are fully giving yourself to her and losing yourself in her. This is how you should approach the world and your life. Women and the world will test you to see if you really are capable and worthy of giving yourself and your gifts fully to them. Give it all anyway.


Enjoy your friends criticism – You and your friends should challenge each others mediocrity. Don’t support each other without challenge. Your friends should know where you are, where you want to be, and challenge/criticize you in a way that will help you reach there.


If you don’t know your purpose, discover it now – Without a purpose, a man is lost and uninterested in the world.


Be willing to change everything in your life – Your purpose is like an onion. You must peel back layers and layers of purposes in order to get closer and eventually reach your deepest purpose. Do not try to skip ahead in this process, accept it and lose yourself fully in your current purpose. It is easy to be disappointed when you succeed or fail at a purpose and realize it is not what you expected. It is simply preparation for your deeper purpose. Be ready to change everything in your life if you must when your current purpose is complete.


Don’t use your family as an excuse – Don’t cheat your family by cheating yourself out of your purpose. Love your family and devote yourself to them, but know your highest priority in life is your mission.


Don’t get lost in tasks and duties – Don’t be so absorbed in accomplishing unimportant tasks that you forget about your deepest purpose and the present moment. If you died right now, would your last moment feel right, dissolving into your love or being engrossed into a irrelevant task or duty.


Stop hoping for your woman to get easier – Women, at least the women that will attract you the most, will always test you in all kinds of chaotic ways. If you can remain grounded in truth and love (humorous, strong, happy) through her tests, you pass her tests.


Obligatory Quote:

“Stop waiting. Feel everything. Love achingly.  Give impeccably. Let go. Repeat with whatever remains as long as you are moved to do so. The way dissolves wide open.”


Ricardo Casilimas

I train MMA.

I read books and write about them so you don’t have to!

And I love to live.

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What is the Power of Habit?

the power of habit

According to Jack D. Hodge, the book’s author, it is the power that separates success from failure, millionaires from those in poverty, and happiness from sadness. Habit is truly a superpower, but don’t get it confused, the power of habit is neither good nor bad, it is how we use it that determines its worth to us. The power of habit can just as easily destroy and cripple someone’s life as lift the most unlikely candidate to his highest potential.

Habit: A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition. Habit is responsible for nearly 90% of our behavior and thus controls the majority of our life. Obviously if we could pick and choose habits, we could achieve much more with much less energy, a habit of exercise could be as easily accomplished as a habit of biting our fingernails.

This book is organized into two parts, one which seeks to prove the power of habit in our life and the second which seeks to explain how to harness this power to help us rather than hinder us. I believe most of us understand already the power of habit and the effect it has on our life, so I will go into a summary of how to change existing habits and implement new ones. According to Hodge,

  1. Identify the bad habit that needs to be changed. You may need feedback from others for this step because most of us are not self-aware enough of ourselves and our bad habits. If there is no bad habit to change and you would simply like to implement a new habit, skip this step.
  2. Decide on a new habit to take the place of the bad habit as habits cannot be erased, they must be replaced. If there is no bad habit, decide on the habit you would like to implement.
  3. Begin this new habit at once, today, not tomorrow. There are many techniques you can use to reinforce the new habit such as visualization and rewarding yourself. If you have a temporary failure at implementing your new habit or a temporary regression into your bad habit, give yourself a negative consequence such as a short burst of pain.

This are very simple steps to follow that can completely change our future in very complex ways, but as is often repeated, things are much easier said then done. In fact, I believe that we, at our core, already know what must be done and that we have the potential to do it, it is simply taking the action that we do not do. It is as if we are waiting for someone or something to make us take the action or change our lives for us. Well if you can’t do that for yourself, here I am to give you that first prod. “YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE THROUGH SIMPLE STEPS AND IF YOU DO NOT REACH YOUR POTENTIAL, YOU WILL HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT YOURSELF!”

Do not get me wrong, changing a habit may be simple, but it is not easy. There will be setbacks and there will be failures. Luckily, however, we have three powerful allies on our side.

Momentum: Momentum is the force that keeps us moving down a certain path and keeps us repeating the same habits simply because it is what we have been doing. While this sounds like a bad thing, it can be a powerful tool for us. As soon as we begin changing our habits and implementing new, beneficial ones, momentum begins to shift in the other direction and work for us. New habits will become easier with time and the entire process of replacing bad habits and creating new habits itself with become automatic and fueled by the momentum we created.

Persistence: Persistence will win the day. This has been a fact proven by all the big names in the history books. We could fail 1001 times like Thomas Edison, but if we remain persistent and continue to try, we will be doing our best and fulfilling our potential, and that is the best we can hope for in life.

Goals: The research has been done and the science has stood behind it plenty of times, but nothing will prove this better then experience: setting goals will make our journey easier and much more likely to succeed. To increase the power of goals, write them down, verbalize them to others, create plans to achieve them, and keep them in your focus as much as possible.

Utilize The Power of Habit and heaven itself will be yours.

Obligatory Quote:

Who Am I?

I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do, you might as well just turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.

I am easily managed – you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great individuals and, alas, of all failures as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures.

I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin – it makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you

Who am I?